It’s certainly is an undeniable fact that the thought of forgiving for ones mistakes directly or indirectly would be a sensible thing to do. Yes the concept and benefits of Forgiveness have been explored in religious thoughts, social science and also medicine. Holding grudges or taking revenge may not help in the long run for which ever party for that matter and the impact can be from various aspects for sure. I bet that u have heard the phrase “Forgive, forget & move on” at least once by now. Well, I think we better take another look at this phrase; this is because a major flaw can be contributed by the word “forget”.
The problem with people is that they forget just too quickly, no matter the incident involves them directly, indirectly or not at all. When a failure event happens one should be learning on what when wrong and certainly should ensure it doesn’t repeat again. The reason for many repeated failure events in our life time is just simply because people fail to realize it’s just not about forgiving, forgetting and moving on. Every individual is here for a reason, it could be a long stay or a short one it doesn’t matter but what is their respective contribution to mankind as a whole. I have said “Making mistakes is a norm but not learning from it should never be our culture”. Again, we have also heard that it’s alright to make mistakes because we can learn from the mistake that we made, very true indeed but one should also realize that we can’t make all the mistakes ourselves. We should also be learning from other people’s mistakes as well. This brings us to the point where we are unable to link ourselves with another individual’s experience with a failure event.
So, moving on by forgetting can be consoling or helpful to those who are directly involved in a bad ordeal but I it does not mean that everyone else should forget or the most important thing learning from it in order to move on. Perhaps one must also understand that many things that happen are in a way predictable under controlled condition. The change would only be on the people, place, time and the magnitude of a particular event. If we could see ourselves and relate to those similarities and understand the potential failure events, it could contribute a lot to mankind. In fact we should also not forget that evolution makes us adapt and understand these gaps much faster than we think.
